Let me start this post out by saying that I'm madly in love with Mr. Darling, and that I'd be willing to do just about anything for him. Having said that, I'm about to vent about one of the most annoying parts of getting married - the name change.
Seriously, what the heck? I've been married for over two years now, which means that I've legally been Tova Darling for almost as long. Two weeks after Mr. D and I got married, I went to the Social Security office and legally changed my name from Tova Sweetness (naturally) to Tova Darling. Then I got my name changed on my license, my bank accounts, credit cards, everything.
Fast forward to last week, when my bank sent me a new debit card because mine is about to expire, and the name on the card was Tova Sweetness. I called the bank and had an extremely annoying conversation with a terribly unhelpful person who kept asking me what name I had told them to put on the card and if I had remembered to tell them to use my married name. Um, A - I didn't order the card, it was sent to me automatically, and B - I was unaware that I had to ask my bank to only use my legal name on my debit card after having changed my name on my bank account two years ago. Yesterday, I had to go to the bank to deposit a check, so I asked the teller if he could make sure that my name was right on my account. He looked at my account and noticed that while the name on the account was Tova Darling, elsewhere in their system, I was still Tova Sweetness, but he couldn't correct it, so he sent me to someone who could. Except that she apparently couldn't find the name Tova Sweetness anywhere on my account, and she kept talking to me like I was some sort of inept moron who didn't know her own name. So, somewhere in the recesses of my bank's database, I'm still Tova Sweetness, and nobody knows why or where or how.
Also on the "let's pretend that Tova never got married or changed her name" bandwagon are my cable company (which is happy to accept monthly payments from Tova Darling but will only send bills to Tova Sweetness) and my health insurance company (which, despite at least a dozen name and address change forms sent by the human resources department, refuses to believe anything other than that my last name is Sweetness and that I live with my parents.) It's very annoying.
Did anyone else have this kind of trouble so long after changing your name? Go ahead, talk about it; you're among friends here.