Within the past year or so, two married couples that Mr. D and I know have had "surprise" pregnancies. And when I say "surprise," I mean "not surprising at all if you understand the basic concept of how babies are made."
We asked both of these couples (who claimed that they were "not ready for kids" when they discovered they were pregnant) what kind of birth control they were using (because, you know, if they both got pregnant while they were using the same kind of birth control I use, I was totally going to switch), and they both answered, "None."
Umm... remember when you were in fifth grade and you had to go into the lunch room with all of the other girls and watch a video about "your changing body," and you all giggled when they explained where babies come from? And when you were in seventh grade health class and you had to do an entire unit on puberty and sex and baby-making and then they made you watch that "Miracle of Life" movie where there's a baby being born, and your health teacher stood in front of the classroom door even after the bell rang so that no one could leave until they'd witnessed the horror/miracle of childbirth? And then in high school health class when they made you watch a video that taught you how to put a condom on a banana? And when you went to the gynecologist and they talked to you about birth control? And then on literally thousands of movies and television shows where someone got pregnant as a direct result of having sex? How exactly, in the year 2009, does someone over 25 manage to get pregnant without using any type of birth control and then consider it to be a "surprise"???? The word you're looking for there is not "surprise," it's "inevitable." I mean, come on now! I know that teenagers sometimes accidentally get pregnant, but how can a mature, responsible adult who is freaking married consider getting pregnant a "surprise" if they're not using any form of birth control at all?
The other thing that ticked me off is that the father of one of the "surprise" babies posted on his blog that if he'd "known how hard it was to take care of an infant," he would've "been more careful."
Ok, A - Probably not something you want to share on a public blog being read by everyone you know, because now every time I see him with his baby, I think "Man, that guy is so mad he has a baby," B - You're in your late twenties, and you had no idea that having a baby would be hard?? You might want to consider the fact that you could be stupid. And C - So you weren't trying to prevent pregnancy in any way at all, and only after impregnating someone and actually becoming a father does it occur to you that, "hey, maybe birth control might've been a good idea"?? People can be so dumb!
I have no clever, insightful, or thought-provoking ending for this post, so I'm just going to stop and allow you all to ponder the obvious lack of foresight that some people exhibit.
(Oh, and just so no one leaves me hate messages - I'm aware that in some religions and denominations, birth control is frowned upon or considered a sin. Mine's not one of those, but I respect people who hold those beliefs. However, the people I'm talking about here don't belong to those religions or denominations, and have no moral or spiritual qualms about using birth control. In fact, both couples have decided to use birth control after the first "surprise." They just couldn't be bothered before, apparently.)